Comments on: For Parents: After the candy’s been eaten http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/ Thoughts about teens, tweens, parenting and this adventure of living on Earth in the 21st century. Thu, 16 May 2013 23:41:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Patti Mallett http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/comment-page-1/#comment-19392 Patti Mallett Tue, 28 Feb 2012 03:11:01 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=921#comment-19392 PS- I'm not sure that's what it was called. That's what my daughter and I refer to when talking about it, now that she's a mama of two little ones. LOL PS- I’m not sure that’s what it was called. That’s what my daughter and I refer to when talking about it, now that she’s a mama of two little ones. LOL

]]> By: Patti Mallett http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/comment-page-1/#comment-19391 Patti Mallett Tue, 28 Feb 2012 03:08:16 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=921#comment-19391 During my daughter's teen years we hosted the "Sex Talk" sleep-over each year. I provided the space and everyone brought food. The woman who led it was beloved and trusted by the girls. (I mostly stayed out of sight and fixed pancakes for breakfast before church.) During my daughter’s teen years we hosted the “Sex Talk” sleep-over each year. I provided the space and everyone brought food. The woman who led it was beloved and trusted by the girls. (I mostly stayed out of sight and fixed pancakes for breakfast before church.)

]]> By: s futado http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/comment-page-1/#comment-7474 s futado Sun, 01 Mar 2009 22:51:54 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=921#comment-7474 i feel that relationships should be an ongoing discussion with teens and pre teens. our 5th graders have a class every year called 'family life'. the basic changes in boys and girls is discussed. we also give the correct terms for parts of the body. we should all realize that relationship does not mean 'sex ship'. it's about getting to know someone and spending time together doing things that you both enjoy. these discussions should be available in schools and in churches with parent's consent. i feel that relationships should be an ongoing discussion with teens and pre teens. our 5th graders have a class every year called ‘family life’. the basic changes in boys and girls is discussed. we also give the correct terms for parts of the body.

we should all realize that relationship does not mean ‘sex ship’. it’s about getting to know someone and spending time together doing things that you both enjoy. these discussions should be available in schools and in churches with parent’s consent.

]]> By: Annie http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/comment-page-1/#comment-7247 Annie Mon, 16 Feb 2009 20:24:47 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=921#comment-7247 Yes, Sarah. An ongoing series of conversations. Conversations that include open, honest discussions about relationships, sex, sexuality, values, standards, assertiveness training, communication and decision-making skill building. All of that over a period of years, the focus and tone of which change and grow along with the child/tween/teen. Granted, it may be awkward to talk about some of this stuff with your son or daughter. And maybe you don't feel like you should be leading these kinds discussions due to the fact that perhaps the relationship choices you've made haven't been all that exemplary. If you need guidance before you start talking about relationships with your kid (and listening to what they have to say) then visit the library (non-fiction section... 649's ) The resources are there. Putting it off isn't a viable (or responsible) option. As is reflected by this cautionary tale of a baby born to a 15 year old mom and 13 year old dad. http://tinyurl.com/ddeayp Yes, Sarah. An ongoing series of conversations. Conversations that include open, honest discussions about relationships, sex, sexuality, values, standards, assertiveness training, communication and decision-making skill building. All of that over a period of years, the focus and tone of which change and grow along with the child/tween/teen.

Granted, it may be awkward to talk about some of this stuff with your son or daughter. And maybe you don’t feel like you should be leading these kinds discussions due to the fact that perhaps the relationship choices you’ve made haven’t been all that exemplary. If you need guidance before you start talking about relationships with your kid (and listening to what they have to say) then visit the library (non-fiction section… 649′s ) The resources are there.

Putting it off isn’t a viable (or responsible) option. As is reflected by this cautionary tale of a baby born to a 15 year old mom and 13 year old dad. http://tinyurl.com/ddeayp

]]> By: Sarah http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/comment-page-1/#comment-7232 Sarah Mon, 16 Feb 2009 16:48:10 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=921#comment-7232 Maybe parents are so scared of their teenagers getting into relationships at that age that they aren't talking about it with their kids at all-- then, of course, the only guidance the kids get is from their equally clueless friends! I wonder how many parents have the "relationship conversation" in addition to the sex conversation? Maybe parents are so scared of their teenagers getting into relationships at that age that they aren’t talking about it with their kids at all– then, of course, the only guidance the kids get is from their equally clueless friends! I wonder how many parents have the “relationship conversation” in addition to the sex conversation?

]]> By: Fayette http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/02/15/after-the-candys-been-eaten/comment-page-1/#comment-7217 Fayette Mon, 16 Feb 2009 03:06:26 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=921#comment-7217 Interesting! I think a lot of people don't know what they're looking for in a relationship and also don't have any idea of the sort of person who would actually make a good partner for them. It's true there's a lot of societal pressure to pair up, but biologically it's what we're made for, so I believe the drive is largely internal as well. - Happily in love and not a fan of Valentine's Day Interesting! I think a lot of people don’t know what they’re looking for in a relationship and also don’t have any idea of the sort of person who would actually make a good partner for them. It’s true there’s a lot of societal pressure to pair up, but biologically it’s what we’re made for, so I believe the drive is largely internal as well. – Happily in love and not a fan of Valentine’s Day

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