Comments on: Of course I’m listening! What did you say? http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/09/01/of-course-im-listening-what-did-you-say/ Thoughts about teens, tweens, parenting and this adventure of living on Earth in the 21st century. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 04:46:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: BigLittleWolf http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/09/01/of-course-im-listening-what-did-you-say/comment-page-1/#comment-9842 BigLittleWolf Fri, 04 Sep 2009 03:02:57 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=2158#comment-9842 Since I'm now "down" to one teen at home, good listening is a bit easier. Simply put, there's less competition for my time. He's also quieter by nature, so the talking-listening dynamic tends to be less frequent, less chatty and more meaty. I'm hoping to get a little more informal "chatty" stuff out of him, when I can read the signals that he's up for that. Not always easy or convenient, but they know when we're paying "ear service" instead of paying attention. Really helpful post. Since I’m now “down” to one teen at home, good listening is a bit easier. Simply put, there’s less competition for my time. He’s also quieter by nature, so the talking-listening dynamic tends to be less frequent, less chatty and more meaty.

I’m hoping to get a little more informal “chatty” stuff out of him, when I can read the signals that he’s up for that. Not always easy or convenient, but they know when we’re paying “ear service” instead of paying attention.

Really helpful post.

]]> By: Fayette http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/09/01/of-course-im-listening-what-did-you-say/comment-page-1/#comment-9834 Fayette Wed, 02 Sep 2009 13:48:54 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=2158#comment-9834 It's funny how something as "simple" as good listening is actually so difficult. It's good to be reminded often of how important it is and why. Thanks for the reminder! It’s funny how something as “simple” as good listening is actually so difficult. It’s good to be reminded often of how important it is and why. Thanks for the reminder!

]]> By: Shannon http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/09/01/of-course-im-listening-what-did-you-say/comment-page-1/#comment-9833 Shannon Wed, 02 Sep 2009 12:57:21 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=2158#comment-9833 Great post! I have forwarded it to a friend with a tween and hope he will find it helpful. Great post! I have forwarded it to a friend with a tween and hope he will find it helpful.

]]> By: Amy McCready http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/09/01/of-course-im-listening-what-did-you-say/comment-page-1/#comment-9831 Amy McCready Wed, 02 Sep 2009 10:53:28 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=2158#comment-9831 Love this article! Your advice applies to children of all ages and spouses. Parents wonder why teens "tune them out" - well...duh - we give them beautiful training on how to do just that! Tweens and Teens want and need to be heard and to feel empathy - not judgement - for what they share. Your advice is always right on, Annie! Thank you - I plan to share this article with other parents. Love this article! Your advice applies to children of all ages and spouses. Parents wonder why teens “tune them out” – well…duh – we give them beautiful training on how to do just that!

Tweens and Teens want and need to be heard and to feel empathy – not judgement – for what they share. Your advice is always right on, Annie! Thank you – I plan to share this article with other parents.

]]> By: Sue Atkins http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/09/01/of-course-im-listening-what-did-you-say/comment-page-1/#comment-9830 Sue Atkins Wed, 02 Sep 2009 07:50:20 +0000 http://blog.anniefox.com/?p=2158#comment-9830 Hi Annie I really enjoyed reading your blog today and I have a visual picture of you writing great tips while sorting out your almonds! I really agree it's such a hectic busy world that we often forget to slow down and listen with our eyes and just stop what we are doing for a few minutes to turn and listen to our kids. I've got two teenagers and they often pop into my office when I'm writing but the look on my daughter's face one day when I kept on typing and talking stopped me in my tracks and I haven't done it since ! Kids spell love T-I-M-E really don't they? Hi Annie

I really enjoyed reading your blog today and I have a visual picture of you writing great tips while sorting out your almonds! I really agree it’s such a hectic busy world that we often forget to slow down and listen with our eyes and just stop what we are doing for a few minutes to turn and listen to our kids. I’ve got two teenagers and they often pop into my office when I’m writing but the look on my daughter’s face one day when I kept on typing and talking stopped me in my tracks and I haven’t done it since !

Kids spell love T-I-M-E really don’t they?

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